His name is Kurt. Our first date was on a Sunday afternoon at Latte Land in Briarcliff Village. He was already there when I walked in, and he was walking toward me. We hugged and he explained the water all over his shirt was from when the faucet exploded on him in the bathroom. I thought, 'he washes his hands!'
Just kidding.
Actually my first thought was he kind of reminded me of one of my favorite Uncles, my Uncle Steve, he also reminded me of my brother who I adore. And he also just knocked the wind out of me.
He understands, accepts and adores me. He loves the fact that I am the crazy dog lady. He is supportive and passionate and sweet and smart and so hysterically funny.
Honestly though it took me awhile to know he was The One. I think I was scared. No, I know I was scared. Every time I have gotten close to someone and let my guard down they disappoint me so I just assumed it would happen this time. Nothing. There is nothing about him that I dont love. He is absolutely wonderful.
He knew sooner than I did that this was it. Or maybe I knew but just couldn't believe it finally had happened. I guess I never thought I would feel this way again.
His name is Kurt. And I heart him.
Thursday, August 27, 2009
Who uses online dating sites?
A decade ago I would have been embarrassed to say I did online dating but things have changed and society is much more comfortable with the concept of meeting someone online. Even my Dad is okay with my Internet dating now, finally in 2008.
Think about it; we are all working on our careers and busy with friends, families and hobbies. How else are you going to meet someone? Guys there are completely eligible bachelorettes on dating sites and ladies there are completely eligible bachelors on dating sites. There are men and women who have careers, are attractive and don't have baggage that are just like you and looking for a relationship.
I used to use eHarmony.com to meet potential significant others. Let's call them PSOs. Got my heart broken a few times but at least I was able to form relationships from some of the people I met. At the time, eHarmony was the 'it' site for online dating. Then us Internet daters went through the phase where Match.com seemed to have the best pool of men and women and that seemed to take away from the pool at eHarmony. Now, it seems Plenty of Fish and Tagged.com are the 'it' dating sites and they are both free.
You do have to be careful about people's intentions on any dating site. If their profile says they party a lot and drink 'several times a week' you can pretty much assume that person is looking for sex and a fling. And that is fine if that is what you are looking for as well. Just make sure in the beginning stages of commuication you are honest about what you are looking for and what you expect.
Think about it, you are gorgeous and smart and have it all together so there are other people in the Internet dating world that are gorgeous, smart and have it all together. The stigma of online dating is nearly gone so go for it! What do you have to lose? After 15 years of dating, and 5 years of online dating I have met 'the one' and I never would have met him if I had not hung in there through it all.
Please also visit my column at www.examiner.com/kansas_city
Think about it; we are all working on our careers and busy with friends, families and hobbies. How else are you going to meet someone? Guys there are completely eligible bachelorettes on dating sites and ladies there are completely eligible bachelors on dating sites. There are men and women who have careers, are attractive and don't have baggage that are just like you and looking for a relationship.
I used to use eHarmony.com to meet potential significant others. Let's call them PSOs. Got my heart broken a few times but at least I was able to form relationships from some of the people I met. At the time, eHarmony was the 'it' site for online dating. Then us Internet daters went through the phase where Match.com seemed to have the best pool of men and women and that seemed to take away from the pool at eHarmony. Now, it seems Plenty of Fish and Tagged.com are the 'it' dating sites and they are both free.
You do have to be careful about people's intentions on any dating site. If their profile says they party a lot and drink 'several times a week' you can pretty much assume that person is looking for sex and a fling. And that is fine if that is what you are looking for as well. Just make sure in the beginning stages of commuication you are honest about what you are looking for and what you expect.
Think about it, you are gorgeous and smart and have it all together so there are other people in the Internet dating world that are gorgeous, smart and have it all together. The stigma of online dating is nearly gone so go for it! What do you have to lose? After 15 years of dating, and 5 years of online dating I have met 'the one' and I never would have met him if I had not hung in there through it all.
Please also visit my column at www.examiner.com/kansas_city
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